Have you ever had a day where you’ve been stuck in your head? When we sweat the small stuff constantly, it can cause us to feel stressed, anxious or overwhelmed. Rather than running through the what if scenario’s by dwelling on the past or future, learn to accept the feeling and then let it go. Sweating the small stuff, like a car that cut you off or someone who jumped the line can put you in a mood for the rest of your day. At first, it can be difficult to shake off but once you remind yourself it was merely one moment in a day filled with hundreds more, you can learn to let it lie.
The future is unknown but what is guaranteed is the here and now. When we can find ways to focus on the present moment, we can live our life with an increased level of mindfulness. The decisions we make each moment will impact the future so if you want to try and mold your future then focus on what you can do now. When you bargain with yourself to have that extra piece of cake, spend the evening watching TV rather than working on a task, it may seem minute but when these actions are repeated over time, it can have an adverse effect on your ability to achieve your goal.
A ripple effect of sweating the small stuff is the making and breaking of habits. When our energy and will power is exerted, we are more inclined to fall back into habits that don’t serve us. Then a cycle of frustration, guilt and shame begins because you don’t know why you can’t make yourself build a new habit. It’s easy in theory but difficult to execute, especially when you’re not giving yourself the best chance to create it.
If we want to create a different tomorrow, it starts by changing out habits today. If you want to wake up earlier, what can you do differently to make that a possibility? You could start by setting your alarm for an earlier time but chances are, when it goes off the following morning, you will be tempted to sleep through it. So you could try going to bed slightly earlier so you are still getting enough sleep or you could find an accountability partner who will hold you to your forming habit until it starts to become a part of your routine.
When you are trying to break an existing habit, your mind can make it challenging. Your mind does this through ways of negotiation. ‘I know you said you wouldn’t buy take out for lunch today but look at what you’ve packed, it doesn’t look appealing and you know you miss the shop where you used to go.’ When that though enters your mind, you have two choices: you can listen to it and let it go or you can For instance, if you’re trying to avoid dining out, you may tell yourself it’s okay because you were paid a bit more but with each time you cave, you’re reinforcing an existing habit.
Where you can, remove the cue, break the cycle and habit switch. Our brains like to be on auto pilot so we need to switch to manual and consciously decide to do the new thing.